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I can do anything better than you!

I know that's a song...but I'm not talking about the whole gender war.

Have you ever met that person that seems to compete with you and every thing you do or say on a daily basis? You're not alone! These people exist. They are the "better than you" friends or acquaintances.
No matter what you have done, they did it. First, faster, better. No matter what you purchased, they got it. Newer, cheaper, and first. No matter where you're going, they've been there. Many times. If you're planning a vacation, they're planning one too. Longer, and sooner than you.

If you have experienced this, I need to say no more. You completely understand and are envisioning that person right now. You even feel upset thinking about them, but let me tell you and hear me out on this one: it's not their fault!

Half of these people are not even aware they fall into this category. They react in their competition at all times and may not even realize it. Sure you'd like to shut them up and make them let you have your moment or even react like Homer Simpson and turn around and choke them (in a cartoonish way). But be patient!

These people may not know how much people around them hate this. I find these people are not just trying to compete for attention, they're in need of love and don't how to express their longing for acceptance.  Maybe they find their worth in believing they have more, know more, or do more than the next person. People like this may have never heard how valuable they are. If they knew, there would be no need to "outshine" anyone.  Truth is, as childish as it sounds: you are unique and you need to know this. You were made for a purpose only you could fill! When you truly believe that God has equipped you to be all you can be, you can be a happy person and let people have Their moment. You can be a better friend and encourage others in achieving their goals.
Heart check:: Analyze yourself today. You're either one of two people, the one who is tired of dealing with these people. Or you're realizing that maybe just maybe you're the "better than you" person. Whatever category you fall into, it all goes back to the Love we spoke about yesterday. Loving others...and being patient. Give them that love and attention they need.  Encourage them to find their purpose and see how valuable they are. And Love yourself. Love yourself enough to know, that you are worth more than gold! No matter how cliche that sounds. To know that what others achieve or buy or have, does not interfere with the plan God has for your life. Find your purpose, your calling and do it!
Starting today be the type of person that others want to be around. The person that rejoices when those around you succeed, the one who exudes love in all you do! You are the best at being you! And that's something no one can be better at.

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